5 Ways I Read to Disparage Working Mama Drama, Of course, it was a really important day for me. I was presenting a initiative development program to senior leaders in my organization in about 25 minutes.
Everything seemed to be going fine. I got to work early. I had the room setup the night before. I reviewed the materials one last time. Life was good. And then it happened…One of my team members quietly says, “Did you get dressed in the drab this morning?” Huh? She looks down and I abide by her eyes. And there it is, two different shoes. And we’re not talking the famous navy blue/black combo that you can almost get away with in the right light. We’re talking an incredibly attractive blue/ beige combo that couldn’t be missed aside a legally blind person. I was not happy. So, the answer to her question was yes. I had dressed in the dark while trying very hard not to wake a latent baby that I had spent hours trying to get to sleep.
Something happened that day. I knew I had to make some changes in my life. It just wasn’t working. But how do you this when you feel enjoy you are blocked at every turn? Between the famine of sleep, the laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, housecleaning, doctor appointments, and all the other gear on my impossibly long “to do” list, how was I supposed to fit work in at all, let alone excel at it? For that matter, how I going to excel at anything? I knew I had to minimize the chaos in my life. I found 5 strategies that truly helped me succeed.
1. I started with small but consistent changes. There is something to be said for the sense behind “The Tortoise furthermore The Hare.” In the past, I was famous for putting togetherness these elaborate identical improvement plans where I was going to get up and execute everything perfectly. Let’s just say, those didn’t vocational out. I asked myself, how is this time going to be different? So, I changed my philosophy to one that was more practical. Rather than try to chameleon everything at once, I focused on a few things that I felt would give me a huge boost. I spent 10 – 20 minutes a day in the evening strutting and I spent 10 minutes a day in the afternoon meditating. This was not a huge split of time and these were 2 habits I could easily incorporate. And as it turns out, these habits actually paid off. I still had tons to do, but I had a trifling added energy and a lot more peace of mind.
2. I forgave myself for not being perfect. I decided to let some effects go. I learned to marinate more in the vessel pot and stop freaking exterior in case my house wasn’t as clean as I wanted it to be. If your home doesn’t look like it should afsluiting on the cover of Better Homes and Gardens, thus what? You don’t have to be perfect. If you are providing a loving place for your family, you’re doing just fine. Adjudicative what is truly important, focus on that, and let the rest go.
3. I asked for help. This was so incredibly hard for me. I speculate I felt that I should have things more together. That somehow this was a sign of weakness. But I learned something that I will carry with me for the rest of my life. People that have networks of support are happier, less stressed, besides feel a sense of connection. Keep in mind, your network can come from anywhere. For me, I didn’t get family in the area. In fact, I didn’t have family within 500 miles of me. I found my connections through my church and the moms at my children’s school. I reached out to the other working mothers and over time, I had an amazing network of support and was able to fend a lot of support to others as well.
4. I learned to be grateful. This might secure strange. It sounded strange to me at first too. I read an article about the power of gratitude and it hit me, really hard. For the mortmain few years I truly had been anything but grateful. In fact, I was the opposite from grateful. I was sort of angry. I was resentful that others seemed to have it easier than me. Preferably of being happy besides celebrating others’ successes, I would be drawn into a negative spiral of self pity. I’m not proud of this. But I derive heart in the fact that I had enough self awareness to recognize it besides do something respecting it. I began a gratitude publication that took me 5 minutes a day and it was transformational. I had so multitude to be grateful for.
5. I learned to take a little time for me. I realized I never took any time for myself to do the simple things. The things that make you feel renewed. The things that bring joy to your life. Turns out, you don’t need a lot, but you do distress to bear it a priority and plan ahead for it. So, whether it’s a Girls Night Out, a pottery class, or a trip to the bookstore with a giant cup of coffee, you need to take a morning or dusk whole few weeks just for you. Pay a babysitter, talk to your husband, family member, or whomever, but preemption part hour for you.
So, what do you do if you are in a room full of execs wearing 2 different shoes? You own it baby. I walked up in front of the room, made a joke about getting dressed in the dark, also knocked it absent the park. Then, I went home and took a good look at my life. Slowly I found the balance I needed. Protozoan is good. Sometimes we just need to take a step back, make a few tweaks, and bun amidst it.